1. Send a card for no reason–another cliché? Maybe, but everyone likes to receive a nice “I love you” or “I miss you” notes every once in a while.
2. Listen–this could be the most important one ever, but note that you should listen with empathy and not just hear what they are saying; you should get involved.
3. Encourage–positive support and being there for one another is also very important; seek their support and give them yours and be generous!
4. Do it his or her way–sometimes; you need to do things their way just to show how much you love them and respect their feelings.
5. Know his or her needs–what good is a spouse if he/she does not know the needs of their significant others? This should be your primary concern!
6. Give gifts–nice small gifts are appreciated every once in a while.
7. Touch–intimacy between married people is very important and touching is a means of communication that reflects closeness, connection and love; it is your way of keeping the spark alive.
8. Talk about dreams–dreams of the future that is; if you don‘t share your dreams with your spouse; then who?
9. Select a song that can be “our song” —— this sounds like a cliché, but it can be nice, don‘t you think?
10. Laugh together–laughter is medicine. When you share good laughs together; the fun grows in the relationship and you grow closer and stronger every day.
11. Start each day withI think this one is not that hard; on the contrary; it can be healthy and nice.
12. Date once a week–May not as often as once a week, let‘s say every other week or that a date can be inside your home and that you don‘t have to go somewhere fancy to have it, you get the idea, right?
13. Accept differences–No one is perfect. However; healthy arguments are good for the relationship, hence; the most important thing would be learning how to compromise with one another.
14. Be polite–Please, thank you, you are welcome… these are not only meant for strangers; your own spouse and family should come first and you must always use these phrases inside your home.
15. Be gentle–a person is supposed to be the closest to his/her spouse, being gentle is crucial to keep them close enough.
16. Admit when wrong–don‘t be too arrogant to say it.
17. End the day with a hug–show closeness and again; intimacy.
18. Cuddle–yes; intimacy is very important and reflects love and deep feelings.
19. Show respect–showing respect is more important than showing love.
20. Welcome the other person home–show enthusiasm when they come home and greet them; this means that you are happy because they are home now and that you were waiting for them!
21. Celebrate birthdays in a big way–this does not mean a big party; just show them you care about their personal occasions.
22. Forgive–from the heart and not only in words.
23. Set up a romantic getaway–this sounds like fun every once in a while; no harm in that!
24. Respond quickly to the other person‘s request–show them that you are doing this because you care for them the most.
25. Treat each others‘ friends and relatives with courtesy–even if you don‘t like their family and/or friends, you treat them with respect and courtesy for the sake of your spouse; they deserve that much.
26. Compliment twice a day–everyone likes to hear something nice as a compliment; so give them that when it is due.
27. Call during the day–but don‘t over do it and be obsessed with calling him/her. Give them their space but also show them that you think of them by a 2-minutes phone call saying “how are you doing?”
翻译：
1.没什么缘由地送张卡片——又很老套吗？不过谁不喜欢时不时地收到些“我爱你”，“我想你”之类的卡片呢？
2.聆听——这非常重要，但注意聆听的时候你应该全情投入并参与其中，而不仅仅只是听到了对方说的话。
3.鼓励——彼此支持是非常重要的。向对方寻求支持并慷慨地给予对方支持！
4.按照对方喜欢的方式行事——有时候，你可以按照对方喜欢的方式行事，并以此来传达你对伴侣的爱恋和尊重。
5.知道对方的需求——如果不知道另一半的需要，那还算什么好伴侣？这一点是首先需要留心的。
6.给对方送礼物——偶尔送些甜蜜小礼物，就能令对方感激不尽。
7.抚触——情侣间的抚触非常重要，它可以增进情感，传达爱意。它是情感交流的一种方式，它可以让爱的火花常燃不熄。
8.谈论梦想——说说对未来的憧憬。试想，若不和伴侣分享你的梦想，那么还能同谁讲呢？
9.选一首歌作为“你俩的歌”——听起来有点老套，但是不是很美妙？
10.一起开怀大笑——笑是良药。当你俩一起开怀的时候，你们的关系也会伴随着笑声一天天地亲近和坚固起来。
11.用一个吻迎接新的一天。接吻如此简单，却能令人身心愉悦。
12. 一周约会一次。也不必非得一周一次，也可以两周一次。而且约会的地点可以在家中，不必非去什么特别的地方。你是不是明白了？有心就好。
13.接受彼此的不同，因为人无完人。适度的争论可以增进双方的关系，但重要的是要在争论中懂得妥协。
14.多用礼貌用语。请、谢谢、不客气这些话不只要说给陌生人听，更要说给你的伴侣和家人听。在家里要记得多用这些客气话。
15.温柔一些——若想关系亲密，温柔是至关重要的。
16有错的时候认错——不要自负到拒绝认错。
17用拥抱结束一天的生活——再次用亲昵的行为表达亲密的关系。
18.拥抱——是的，亲昵的行为可以传达爱意，增进情感。
19.尊重对方——显示你的尊重比表达爱意更加重要。
20.欢迎另一半回家——热情地欢迎你的伴侣回家。让他们感受到你的期盼和你的快乐。
21.隆重庆生——并不是说你要为对方的生日大操大办，而是说你要传递出你很重视这个特别日子的信息。
22.宽恕——自心底而不是嘴上说声原谅。
23. 策划一次浪漫出游——时不时搞一次，其乐无穷，完全没有副作用！
24. 快速响应对方的需求——这样做就是为了显示你有多么在意对方。
25.善待对方的朋友和亲属——即便你不喜欢伴侣的朋友和亲属，为了你的伴侣，你也要善待他们。
26.每天互相恭维两次——人人都爱听恭维话，所以在适当的时候说些好话。
27. 打通电话——不要总是给对方打电话。给他们一些空间的同时，打个简短的问候电话，让他们了解你的惦念。
